Most Women Who Leave a Toxic Relationship Make These 3 Mistakes...
…and it’s why they stay stuck longer than they need to.
By Maura Eliza
Certified Traditional Naturopath, Mind-Body Therapist, and Hypno-Therapist
Mistake #1: Thinking the symptoms are separate from the relationship
You noticed a pattern to when the symptoms showed up.
Gut issues and food sensitivities...
Low energy that you can't sleep away...
Skin, weight, or hormone changes...
Bladder issues...
Chronic pain...
Trouble sleeping...
Random anxiety...
All flared during or after that relationship.
You wonder could it really be “just stress" or is there more to it?
I'll break it down for you…
For a long time, I treated my gut issues as the problem. I focused on probiotics, enzymes, diet changes.
It was only when I started paying attention to when they showed up that I saw the pattern.
I realized my symptoms started after an argument that I couldn't believe we were having. I felt betrayed, but hadn't let myself say it out loud.
.
That's when I made the connection. My body wasn't randomly malfunctioning.
It was responding.
And when my life changed, my body responded.
Learning the language of my symptoms let me stop fighting them and start working with them.
That's when symptoms became less intense.
That's when flare-ups became less frequent.
And eventually, disappeared altogether.
Your symptoms aren't random.
They're your body's START HERE signs. (Read more on that here.)
And once you know how to read them, you know where healing begins.
Mistake #2: Focusing on emotional healing while ignoring what the body needs to feel safe
Most women are taught to heal by understanding what happened. They go to therapy. Listen to podcasts. Read self help books. Those are helpful, but they only address a part of the picture.
That's why so many women feel discouraged.
They showed up.
They did the homework.
They learned the language.
But they still feel like the healing is incomplete. Their body can't feel safe.
It was only when I looked at my habits that I saw these missing pieces. Among them, a nervous system that was bracing because I kept skipping meals and calling it "fasting." My body thought I was starving, so of course it couldn't relax.
As long as my daily habits were still sending stress signals to my body, no amount of insight could calm my body.
When I started to give my habits as much intention as I had been giving to understanding what happened, my body began to feel safe.
That's when the emotional work landed deeper.
That's when self-trust became something I could actually feel.
Healing requires the whole picture.
Mistake #3: Re-entering dating without realizing you're still in survival mode
You already know you used to perform in relationships in order to be chosen.
You overrode red flags because the chemistry felt strong
You said "yes" when you wanted to say "no"
You stayed casual when you really wanted commitment
Leaving the relationship didn't automatically change those patterns.
Trying harder, hoping things will start making sense didn't work. The thing that actually shifts the pattern is realizing that your body associates love with proving yourself.
Of course honesty feels scary.
Of course asking for commitment is risky.
Of course repeating the familiar feels easier than choosing something new.
And you've realized that familiar has felt safer than different.
That's the exact level of honesty that's needed to rebuild self-trust, emotionally and physically. Only then will you go on to date date honestly. That's how you see clearly enough to can match your dating behavior with what you actually want.
You've been honest with yourself and your next steps are in Date Like You Mean It.
It starts with a Sacred Pause and 7 bold challenges to build rock solid self trust. So that you rebuild an honest relationship with yourself and go on to have an honest relationship with someone else.
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